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Realistic Idealism

By Dave Stuart Jr.

Perhaps the guiltiest culprit for our burnout each year is not the latest policy from on high, the newest cumbersome teacher eval rubric, or the fact that “this year's group is a really rough one.” In my experience, these things create challenging circumstances (and many times the challenge lies not in the things but in the ignoring of them), but they don't burn me out. Really, what burns me out is my unrealistic expectations.

In June I decompress. In July I start to dream. And so in August, I tend to bring larger than life expectations to the classroom as I prepare for the year.

Some expectations are important, and we have to cling to them:

A better word for these kinds of worthy, big picture expectations would be ideals. I'm eleven years into my career, and I can't conceptualize doing this work without the above ideals. “Essential” isn't a strong enough words. This kind of idealism doesn't lead to burnout; rather, it acts as a charm for keeping burnout at bay.

But then there's this other set of expectations that just has to die right out of the gate if I'm going to avoid burnout. These are the unrealistic expectations:

  • Everything is going to go as planned (when, in fact, Marly will attack);
  • I have to grade everything, and all of that grading has to be done the same way (when, in fact, some of the best teachers grade very pragmatically);
  • I have to read everything that my students write (when really, there are types of writing we should rarely read — use the Pyramid of Writing Priorities for that);
  • I have to give individualized feedback after pop-up debates (when the guy who made up PUD practically never does that, opting instead for brief, whole-class feedback and reflection);
  • I have to do everything on my list (when instead, we ought to be brutally clear-sighted in handling the most pointless things we're asked to do).

What I've briefly painted here is what many of the best career teachers possess: realistic idealism. That first set of bullet points is about as high-minded as it comes. It is hugely idealistic. To hold to that list, we need to ignore the pessimistic voices that surround us. But that bottom list is interesting because, to hold to it, we need to ignore the overly optimistic voices that surround us — those who believe that we can somehow do All The Things.

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4 Responses to Realistic Idealism

  1. janetawel August 1, 2017 at 10:54 am #


  2. Tracy Diane Lusby August 1, 2017 at 5:48 pm #

    Hi Dave! I thought I’d share a post I put on my Facebook page responding to this piece.

    I don’t often make time to read the education related pieces I often want to read, but as I was cleaning out my email Dave’s title caught my brain because for the past year I’ve been reflecting upon an idea of changing the way I teach. All year the phrase I was searching for to ‘label’ this idea has eluded me, until now. UNREALISTIC IDEALISM is what I suffer from not only in the classroom, but also in the management of my life; laundry, bills, shopping, putting stuff away, cleaning, and on and on and on, which ultimately gets me telling myself I’m not good enough. If you suffer, like I do, from UNREALISTIC IDEALISM I recommend you read Dave’s article and then make a REALISTIC plan to implement in your life. I’d be curious to hear about the affects. With Much Love, Tracy🌸.

    • davestuartjr August 3, 2017 at 11:39 am #

      Tracy, this is such a blessing to me — thank you.

    • Sandy Wells August 9, 2017 at 3:21 pm #

      Dave, thanks for naming it and keeping it real. Tracy, let’s take Dave’s words and coaching to heart and make a change this year!

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